by “The Trap Hook Vs The Trust Hook”
“Nothing Just Happens”
“Accidents don’t just happen, they are caused!”
“Insanity is to do the same thing over and over, again, again and then expect a different result!”
If a woman ever plans to marry a good man and then live happily ever after, she must, plan, plot, play all the cards God has dealt to her. And if she plays them right and on time she wins. Timing is everything!
The woman can hook a man with Her Trust Hook or Her Trap Hook! But it’s the Bait that attracts him!
What is the bait that draws a man’s attention to a woman? The bait that draws a man’s attention to a woman is:
- A Sexy Body! (Her Look and what He Sees her wear) – What she wears or shows when she dresses. The parts of her body that she reveals in a sexy seductive way.
- A Sexy Move! (Her Actions and what He Feels her doing) –
What she does with her body, what she shows, highlights, and give emphasis is what draws a
man’s attention to certain body parts of her body in a sexy suggestive way,
(This must intentionally done without her appearing slutty or whorish).
- A Sexy Personality! (Her Talk and what He Hears her say) –
What she says with her mouth that is her sexy talk!
Sex can be, “directly presented” by a woman! Or Sex can be “Intriguingly done”! Both draw a man’s attention to a woman!
Sometimes with some men it is the fact that a woman is ignorant about sex, or she appears to be ignorant about sex, that draws some men to certain women. A woman like this seems to be safe for some men, who are shy, bashful or introverted. She does not pose a threat to their doubts about their personal sexual skills; thus, they are sexually attracted to this type of sexually naive woman.
If a man appears to be sexually confident, (the lover type) then the woman Sexy bait for that confident man should be both ‘direct’ and ‘on-the-cutting-edge’ when it comes to her sexuality!
If a man appears to be sexually withdrawn, (the nerd type) then the woman Sexy bait for that withdrawn man should be both intriguingly subtle but sexy!
Again, if the man appears to be sexually confident, the woman should be direct and bold in her sexual bait and approach to catch this man!
And, if the man appears to be sexually withdrawn and sexually timid, the woman should be very reserved and non-threatening with her sexual bait and approach to catch the man. {With this man her sexual actions must be concealed but intentionally carried out with great precision).
A man’s lack of sexual self-confidence must never be threaten or revealed. She must build his confidence without him ever knowing that she knows! She must help him first discover his sexuality and then allow him to discover her sexiness without him being threaten or intimidated by it. Any sexual adventure between the two of them must be pleasurable and non-threatening to him and he must never know this. (This protects his ego).
The ‘Sexual-Bait’!
All men are drawn to a woman or to women in general, through ‘Sexual-Bait’! Sex is very powerful for both the man and the woman!
Once the man has taken the woman’s sexual bait, he is completely hooked! She must realize that she got him hook, line and sinker, and not be fooled by his words or actions, to the contrary. (Even a little fish will put up a fight once it has been hooked.) A woman must know that he is hooked and move on with her plan! I say this because many women don’t believe that the man is hooked on her because he is not totally wiped out and asking to marry me, today! Women have a tendency to ‘over-rate’ their sexual-powers and their body as well! (Her body maybe the best ever, but her sex alone, no matter how good it is, will never make a man act that fast! If a man’s begs a woman to marry him, immediately, the woman needs to watch him because he has a sinister motive. He either wants her money, needs a place to live, is running from somebody or something; or just no good and not worth marrying.
What a woman does after she has hooked the man is the key as to whether she can keep him and he marries her!
Any man who is hooked by a woman’s “Trap-Hook”, he knows that he is hooked, and that he is hooked good, but as soon as he can find a way to get her hook out of him, he is gone!
Trust & Control!
Trust is as important to a man, just as control is important to a woman. Trust allows a man to be highly stimulated, just as control allows a woman to be highly stimulated. But the control by a woman over a man is more powerful and it gives her a higher and an even greater sexual stimulation! This is why it is so hard for a woman to give up trust to the man, allowing him to control her and the relationship.
A woman who is controlling and trapping her man, is the woman who is already having full sexual intercourse with that man! This is exactly how she is trapping him! (She tells herself, she is doing this for him; the truth is, she is trapping him for herself, so she can control him, and when he stops and wants out of her trap, she is angry. She then tells everybody what a dog he is and no good! But she didn’t have to have full sexual intercourse with him, that was her choice. Yes, he asked for it, but she could have said no and she should have said no. But she really didn’t want to, because deep down inside she wanted to use her body to trap and hopefully control him.) Make him feel guilty and bad, that is trapping a man!
She can use her sexual powers over him, now that he is hooked and trap him so she can control him; or she can lovingly give him complete control and trust him! The woman’s continued control over the man she tries to trap is powerfully stimulating to her this is way it is so hard for a woman to give the control of the relationship to the man. It’s not that she doesn’t trust him ‘yet’, it’s the fact that her trusting the man does not gives her the stimulation that controlling him does, now this is the real reason why a woman does not trust the man! It’s not a matter of ‘trust and control’. To the woman it is a matter of ‘stimulation’, ‘a powerful stimulation’ that has a force inside, that is not readily or easily given up by the woman, she must make a decided decision to give the control to the man, knowing full well that she is giving up her stimulation in order to open the trust door for the man!
A woman gets no stimulation when she trust the man, but she is highly and powerfully stimulated when she controls the man and the relationship that she is trying to build with the man. That is why she has to ‘trap’ the man with her ‘sex’ and ‘body’. Then she uses the fact that she gave him her body and sex, to make him feel guilty, to try to keep him in the relationship that she is controlling. But it won’t last, because a woman cannot keep a good man by trapping him with sex and her body, no matter how good it is or she is!
A man who is a player will pretend like he’s trapped, and go along with her game, until he gets tired and fed up with the drama and then he will leave. Also the man who is a player, once he has had full sexual intercourse with a woman, has already found someone else, with whom he is having sex, and this woman is just something to do, when he has nothing else to do.
The man who wants to marry, will leave and come back, leave and come back, thinking that the controlling woman has changed, but she has not and he will never marry her! The woman who immediately move to ‘trusting’ the man, by giving him complete control of the relationship, will give up her desire to trap and control, for ‘trust and control’, where she trust him and he controls her {‘rule’ over her – Genesis 3:16 ), in the relationship!
A woman must have a covering! Her man is that covering and protection! When the woman, moves to trust the man, rather than trap the man, she has allow God to provide for her through the man, what she could never provide for herself, a covering! She may provide her own covering and protection but not without a great price and an incomplete life.
At this point, the woman should read, the articles,
“I Fooled Around and Fell in Love” and “The Opportunity To Trust Me” by Marion J. Wade. These two articles will greatly help a woman build a trusting relationship with her man.
